During times of loss, people often behave unusually. It’s said that grief brings out a different version of yourself. You may need support while also feeling compelled to support your family members. It’s challenging to balance self-care with caring for others. It’s like wearing a mask, concealing the vulnerability you wish to express. Being vulnerable with your family is perfectly acceptable, but it’s important to do so with control and moderation. You also need to show your family that you can be their shoulder to cry on when they need to express their feelings.
If you’re at a loss for words or unsure how to act when someone is grieving, here are some suggestions to guide you:
- Don’t ask, “How are you?” The answer is already obvious. Instead of asking this question, you can ask about how their feeling and what you can do to help
- Assist with funeral meals for visitors or just a helping hand in general. If you’re close to the family or a friend of the deceased, offer hands-on help. This practical support can be invaluable to them while they’re grieving.
- Listen attentively. Rather than giving advice on what they should do or how they should act, be a compassionate listener. They need someone to whom they can express their feelings, and this can be your most important role in the situation.
Supporting your family during loss is crucial, as times of grief are when you should be together. Spend these precious moments not only with your immediate family but also with extended family and friends of the person who passed away. This can be a time to learn more about the deceased, discovering different perspectives and sharing memories. You may gain new insights into their life while remembering the person you knew.
